Femdom Community Wiki

Welcome to the

r/FemdomCommunity Wiki

This website aims to align with the r/FemdomCommunity Subreddit Wiki in order to safeguard, uphold, and promote kinky femdom communities, as well as the knowledge and wisdom of its members, against corporate censorship. While it's not intended to be a direct 1-for-1 replication, our goal is to provide a platform for growth and a more extensive wiki experience.

2010 me: "I don't know... I'd hate if I came across like a Disney villainess. I could never do that..."

2020 me: "Disney villainess? What a fun and validating sexual identity!"

— u/FairytaleTransfusion

Getting started

• Getting Help on the Subreddit
• Finding Your Feet in Kink: Some Words of Advice For Beginners
• Frequently Asked Questions
• Finding Your Local BDSM Community
• Finding a Partner in Kink
• Where can I find kink friendly professional counseling and therapy?

Kink guides and resources

• Sex Toy Safety Guide
• Getting Started With Pegging
• Bondage (Article Under Development)
  • Bondage (Penile-Centric)
  • Bondage (Vaginal-Centric) (Article Under Development)
• Psychology, Sociology, and Demographics of BDSM
• Related Subreddits
• External Resources - Recommended Reading

Rules of r/FemdomCommunity

• Over 18's Only. The subreddit is for persons 18 years of age or older. If you are under 18, or describe, promote, or reference, or in any way, inappropriate contact with persons under 18, your post will be removed and you will be banned. If you're under 18, we suggest you take a look at Scarleteen or BISH UK.

• It is not a personals subreddit. It is discussion subreddit. Please go to /r/BDSMpersonals, /r/GFDpersonals, etc., if you're looking to advertise for a partner or for professional services. Likewise, do not approach community members with unsolicited sexual content or offers to engage in sexual activities. Honestly, they do not take this behaviour lightly and will ban you permanently for it.

• We're here to talk about femdom, not masturbate to it. It is a community subreddit. We want it to be a place where people can seek help and support. This is generally not the place to look for or share porn or erotic content. Sharing a personal story is permitted but it should fall into:
  1. An achievement/episode you want to share with the community (not with the purpose of titillating yourself or others).
  2. Details that help us help you when you come seeking support or advice.
  3. It has an educational purpose or serves to illustrate a discussion.

• Do Not Presume Familiarity. If someone defines themselves as A Domme, Top, Mistress, it does not mean they are your Domme, Top, Mistress, nor does it mean they even want you to ask. Really. Just because someone is a sub does not mean they are your sub, or that you may treat them different than anyone else.

• When discussing kink, model responsible practices. Femdom is for everyone, so we should all participate with that diversity in mind.
  • The way we talk about kink has an effect on others. When discussing kink, take care to not do so in a way that fetishises abuse, reproduces toxic social mores or further harms marginalised groups. Likewise, do not shame or condescend on other members for the kinks they might or not have. Avoid forcing your kinks onto others or questioning their role identification for not sharing your kinks.

• Help Us Help You. We get a lot of threads asking for advice, and we've got a lot of folk willing to help. Please help them by including you and your partners needs and limits. More advice on getting help can be found here.

• Be Excellent to Each Other. It is your community. Make it a welcoming, helpful place where people can feel heard and valued. Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, harassment, bullying, xenophobia, kink shaming and victim blaming will not be tolerated.

• Remember reddiquette! Don't downvote people just because you disagree with them!