Latest revision as of 17:32, 7 July 2024

This website aims to align with the r/FemdomCommunity Subreddit Wiki in order to safeguard, uphold, and promote kinky femdom communities, as well as the knowledge and wisdom of its members, against corporate censorship. While it's not intended to be a direct 1-for-1 replication, our goal is to provide a platform for growth and a more extensive wiki experience.

2010 me: "I don't know... I'd hate if I came across like a Disney villainess. I could never do that..."
2020 me: "Disney villainess? What a fun and validating sexual identity!"

— u/FairytaleTransfusion

Getting started

Getting Help on the Subreddit
Finding Your Feet in Kink: Some Words of Advice For Beginners
Frequently Asked Questions
Finding Your Local BDSM Community
Finding a Partner
Where can I find kink friendly professional counseling and therapy?
Recognizing Scams
Q&A - Short answers to common questions

Kink guides and resources

Sex Toy Safety Guide
Getting Started With Pegging
Bondage (Article Under Development)
- Bondage (Penile-Centric)
- Bondage (Vaginal-Centric) (Article Under Development)
Psychology, Sociology, and Demographics of BDSM
Related Subreddits
External Resources - Recommended Reading

Rules of r/FemdomCommunity

Over 18's Only. The subreddit is for persons 18 years of age or older. If you are under 18, or describe, promote, or reference, or in any way, inappropriate contact with persons under 18, your post will be removed and you will be banned. If you're under 18, we suggest you take a look at Scarleteen or BISH UK.
It is not a personals subreddit. It is discussion subreddit. Please go to r/FemdomPersonals, r/GFDpersonals, r/BDSMpersonals, etc., if you're looking to advertise for a partner or for professional services. Likewise, do not approach community members with unsolicited sexual content or offers to engage in sexual activities. Honestly, they do not take this behaviour lightly and will ban you permanently for it.
We're here to talk about femdom, not masturbate to it. It is a community subreddit. We want it to be a place where people can seek help and support. This is generally not the place to look for or share porn or erotic content. Sharing a personal story is permitted but it should fall into:
- An achievement/episode you want to share with the community (not with the purpose of titillating yourself or others).
- Details that help us help you when you come seeking support or advice.
- It has an educational purpose or serves to illustrate a discussion.
Do Not Presume Familiarity. If someone defines themselves as A Domme, Top, Mistress, it does not mean they are your Domme, Top, Mistress, nor does it mean they even want you to ask. Really. Just because someone is a sub does not mean they are your sub, or that you may treat them different than anyone else.
When discussing kink, model responsible practices. Femdom is for everyone, so we should all participate with that diversity in mind.
- The way we talk about kink has an effect on others. When discussing kink, take care to not do so in a way that fetishises abuse, reproduces toxic social mores or further harms marginalised groups. Likewise, do not shame or condescend on other members for the kinks they might or not have. Avoid forcing your kinks onto others or questioning their role identification for not sharing your kinks.
Help Us Help You. We get a lot of threads asking for advice, and we've got a lot of folk willing to help. Please help them by including you and your partners needs and limits. More advice on getting help can be found here.
Be Excellent to Each Other. It is your community. Make it a welcoming, helpful place where people can feel heard and valued. Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, harassment, bullying, xenophobia, kink shaming and victim blaming will not be tolerated.
Remember reddiquette! Don't downvote people just because you disagree with them!

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-= Getting Help in This Subreddit<ref>Source: [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/wiki/index/gettingandgivinghelp Getting Help in This Subreddit]. ''r/FemdomCommunity/wiki''. September 22, 2023.</ref> =
+This website aims to align with the <code>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity r/FemdomCommunity]</code> [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/wiki/index/ Subreddit Wiki] in order to safeguard, uphold, and promote kinky femdom communities, as well as the knowledge and wisdom of its members, against corporate censorship. While it's not intended to be a direct 1-for-1 replication, our goal is to provide a platform for growth and a more extensive wiki experience.
-== Using The Search Bar ==
+{{blockquote|author=<code>u/FairytaleTransfusion</code>|quote=2010 me: "I don't know... I'd hate if I came across like a Disney villainess. I could never do that..."
-Do consider [[:File:Use-The-Searchbar.png|throwing a few keywords into the search bar]] before posting.
+me: "Disney villainess? What a fun and validating sexual identity!"|multiline=true}}
-== Searching by Flair ==
+= Getting started =
+* [[Getting Help on the Subreddit]]
+* [[Finding Your Feet in Kink: Some Words of Advice For Beginners]]
+* [[Frequently Asked Questions]]
+* [[Finding Your Local BDSM Community]]
+* [[Finding a Partner in Kink|Finding a Partner]]
+* [[Professional Counseling and Therapy|Where can I find kink friendly professional counseling and therapy?]]
+* [[Recognizing Scams]]
+* [[Common Questions|Q&A]] - Short answers to common questions
-This subreddit uses Post Flairs to make our threads more searchable. If you click on, or touch, a post flair, you will find a list of all posts with that Flair. We get a lot of repeat questions, so the odds are good that you’ll find a lot of information quickly just by using the Post Flairs to search
+= Kink guides and resources =
+* [[Sex Toy Safety Guide]]
+* [[Getting Started With Pegging]]
+* [[Bondage]] ''(Article Under Development)''
+** [[Bondage (Penile-Centric)]]
+** [[Bondage (Vaginal-Centric)]] ''(Article Under Development)''
+* [[Psychology, Sociology, and Demographics of BDSM]]
+* [[Related Subreddits]]
+* [[External Resources]] - Recommended Reading
-<strong>Our Post Flairs are:</strong>
+= Rules of [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity r/FemdomCommunity] =
+# <strong>Over 18's Only.</strong> The subreddit is for persons 18 years of age or older. If you are under 18, or describe, promote, or reference, or in any way, inappropriate contact with persons under 18, your post will be removed and you will be banned. If you're under 18, we suggest you take a look at [https://www.scarleteen.com/ Scarleteen] or [https://www.bishuk.com/ BISH UK].
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Help!%20I%27m%20new!%22 Help! I’m new!]</strong>is for beginner questions. The odds are very good that any beginner question you might have has already been asked and answered several times, So be sure to search this flair before you start.
+# <strong>It is not a personals subreddit.</strong> It is discussion subreddit. Please go to <code>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomPersonals r/FemdomPersonals]</code>, <code>[https://www.reddit.com/r/GFDpersonals r/GFDpersonals]</code>, <code>[https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals r/BDSMpersonals]</code>, etc., if you're looking to advertise for a partner or for professional services. Likewise, do not approach community members with unsolicited sexual content or offers to engage in sexual activities. Honestly, they do not take this behaviour lightly and will ban you permanently for it.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Need%20advice%2FGot%20a%20question%22 Need Advice / Got a Question]</strong>is for more general problem solving and solution sharing.
+# <strong>We're here to talk about femdom, not masturbate to it.</strong> It is a community subreddit. We want it to be a place where people can seek help and support. This is generally not the place to look for or share porn or erotic content. Sharing a personal story is permitted but it should fall into:
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Support%22 Support]</strong>is for users experiencing difficulty and/or distress. We have some [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/bgf2ry/guidelines_for_discussing_abuse_coercion_and/ specific guidelines]</strong>for support threads that are also linked in the Automod comment that appears on every thread. Please take a moment to familiarise yourself with them before commenting.
+#* An achievement/episode you want to share with the community (not with the purpose of titillating yourself or others).
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/wiki/index/personalsafety?f=flair_name%3A%22Need%20scene%2Fpunishment%20suggestions%22 Need Scene / Punishment Suggestions]</strong>for canvassing the community for kinky ideas. Please remember Rule 6 when posting threads like this.
+#* Details that help us help you when you come seeking support or advice.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Articles%20%26%20Writings%22 Articles &amp; Writings]</strong>for either your own writing about kink or a blog post or news article about femdom that you’d like to share and discuss with the community.
+#* It has an educational purpose or serves to illustrate a discussion.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/wiki/index/zkinkguides/bondage?f=flair_name%3A%22Guides%20%26%20Resources%22 Guides &amp; Resources]</strong>if you have found (or made!) a cool guide or educational resource that you would like to share with the community.
+# <strong>Do Not Presume Familiarity.</strong> If someone defines themselves as A Domme, Top, Mistress, it does not mean they are your Domme, Top, Mistress, nor does it mean they even want you to ask. Really. Just because someone is a sub does not mean they are your sub, or that you may treat them different than anyone else.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Technique%2FSkills%22 Technique / Skills]</strong>for practical help on your dominant or submissive skillset.
+# <strong>When discussing kink, model responsible practices.</strong> Femdom is for everyone, so we should all participate with that diversity in mind.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Praise!%20Happy%20thing%20happened%22 Praise! Happy thing happened]</strong>for celebrating your femdom achievements and milestones.
+#* The way we talk about kink has an effect on others. When discussing kink, take care to not do so in a way that fetishises abuse, reproduces toxic social mores or further harms marginalised groups. Likewise, do not shame or condescend on other members for the kinks they might or not have. Avoid forcing your kinks onto others or questioning their role identification for not sharing your kinks.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/wiki/index/zkinkguides/?f=flair_name%3A%22BDSM%2FScene%20Dating%22 BDSM / Scene Dating]</strong>for help, advice and experience with finding a partner (no worries, we all find it hard, you’re not alone).
+# <strong>Help Us Help You.</strong> We get a lot of threads asking for advice, and we've got a lot of folk willing to help. Please help them by including you and your partners needs and limits. More advice on getting help can be found [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/bf9w0v/mod_team_psa_getting_kinky_ideas_and_scene_advice/ here].
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Gear%20%26%20Equipment%22 Gear &amp; Equipment]</strong>for questions, recommendations and reviews of toys, trinkets, equipment and clothing.
+# <strong>Be Excellent to Each Other.</strong> It is your community. Make it a welcoming, helpful place where people can feel heard and valued. Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, harassment, bullying, xenophobia, kink shaming and victim blaming will not be tolerated.
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Culture%2FSociety%22 Culture / Society]</strong>to discuss femdom in a wider cultural context, track down your local scene, etc.
+# <strong>Remember [https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/205926439-Reddiquette reddiquette]</strong>! Don't downvote people just because you disagree with them!
-* <strong>[https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Discord%2Fsubreddit%20promotion%22 Discord / subreddit promotion]</strong>to find (or promote your own) online communities related to femdom.
-== Regular Threads==
-Regular threads are posted by and stickied by Automod on a weekly and monthly basis. [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22What%27s%20Up%20Weekly%22 What’s Up Weekly] is our regular chat thread for your musings, rants, celebrations and other points of view that you’d like to share without posting a whole new thread and [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/?f=flair_name%3A%22Sapphic%20Saturday%22 Sapphic Saturday] is a weekend thread that celebrates all aspects of WLW and Queer Kink.
-== Getting Ideas and Advice For Your Femdom Adventures ==
-Here on [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity r/FemdomCommunity], we get a lot of posts in search of advice, ideas and suggestions for femdom scenes. We’re also lucky enough to have some fantastic, creative contributors who are willing to spend time and effort to help them out. However, they do need a basic framework to start generating practical, workable, fun ideas.
-<strong>You would make it much easier for them to help you by providing the following information:</strong>
-* Your hard limits
-* Your soft limits
-* Your kinky preferences
-* Your partner’s hard limits
-* Your partner’s soft limits
-* Your partner’s kinky preferences
-If you or your partner are just finding your feet in kink and are still exploring your kinky preferences, tell us what your vanilla preferences are so that we can help you come up with some kinked versions of them to try.
-If you do not know what your vanilla (or kinky) interests are, we would like to recommend that you take the [https://mojoupgrade.com/ mojoupgrade quiz] to help you figure that out.
-If you do not include this information in your post, it will be removed and you will receive a notification requesting that you repost with the information included.
-== Giving Help in This Subreddit ==
-The number of people in this community who are ready and willing to weigh in with help and support are what makes this community so special. However, there’s also a small fraction of users who tend to type out their advice with one hand - and when you’re totally to BDSM, it can be really hard to tell the difference.
-== Trusted Contributor Flairs ==
-"<strong>Trusted Contributor</strong>" Flairs are awarded by the moderating team to users who consistently give helpful, practical advice and/or generate high quality content for the community. Anyone can nominate a user for a Trusted Contributor Flair. If you would like to nominate someone to receive this user flair (including the yourself), please [https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/FemdomCommunity contact the mods].
-== Helping Users Who have Had a Confusing or Difficult Experience ==
-Please take a moment to [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/bgf2ry/guidelines_for_discussing_abuse_coercion_and/ read through these basic guidelines] on discussing coercion, abuse and sexual assault and remember them when helping users in need of support.
-== Source ==
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