Prick Your Finger is an online gathering on Discord for mature and inclusive enthusiasts of intersectional femdom, woman-aligned queerdom, power exchange, and other related kinks.
Overview
Originating[1] from r/FemdomCommunity, the Prick Your Finger discord community is known for its robust community guidelines promoting safety, inclusivity, and enjoyment. It emphasizes a casual protocol named the "dynamic scene," where a consensual power dynamic is maintained in shared spaces.
Members participate in the scene, with flexibility offered via the server's role and ticketing systems, allowing users to decide their level of involvement. The community demands verification upon joining, a measure introduced to ensure the safety and authenticity of its adult members. In consideration of the threats faced by the LGBTQ/Queer community, the server enforces uniform verification and compliance standards for all.
Membership Criteria
Members sought by the community should:
- Be emotionally mature and at least 21 years old with age verification.
- Exhibit passion for femdom, woman-aligned queerdom, and related subjects.
- Actively engage in discussions and server events.
- Maintain open-mindedness, inclusivity, and good communication skills.
- Seek non-professional engagement in the community's focus areas.
Joining
Those interested in subjects like femdom, woman-aligned queerdom, and associated kinks are welcome to join and connect with like-minded individuals by following our invite link here: Official Discord Server. The community promises learning opportunities and engaging activities in its unique space.
Community Demographics
The Prick Your Finger discord community hosts a diverse group from varying backgrounds and experience levels. Its core aim is creating an aggressively inclusive environment. The server provides various channels for members to converse and exchange ideas. Safety, respect, and harassment-free interactions are cornerstones of their guidelines.
Rules and Guidelines
- Dynamic Scene: An intrinsic aspect, it requires participating members to both follow and uphold specific standards. This system acknowledges the power dynamics and consensual inequality voluntarily embraced by members.
- Participation: Although participation in the scene is automatic, it's not obligatory. The server's systems allow for adjustable engagement levels.
- Verification: Members must provide a valid ID and a picture with their face clearly visible for age verification.
Acceptable Use Standard
While our Moderation team is dedicated to protecting you and your content against bad actors and malicious activities, the primary responsibility for safeguarding your identity lies with you. This platform is a protected yet semi-public space. We urge you to exercise vigilance and discernment when sharing sensitive information or media that could reveal your identity. Please be aware of the potential risks associated with the content you choose to share.
By participating in this server, you are agreeing to comply with the server rules and channel guidelines, regardless if you have read them in their entirety. We strongly encourage you to familiarize yourself with these guidelines to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience.
Warnings, Education, and Moderator Action
If a member does not abide by the rules or code of conduct, this may result in action being taken against them. Generally, the corrective action will be public education instead of sanctions, wherever practical.
However, Moderators reserve the right to pursue action without discretion against anyone who does not comply with the rules or the code of conduct. They are not obligated to preface any moderation with a warning or lesser action. Moderator action may include but is not limited to any of the following:
- Informative Reminder
- A private or public message explaining the rule or code of conduct violation and offering suggestions for avoiding similar issues in the future.
- Public Clarification
- A public message outlining clarifying that a specific message or behavior is not appropriate.
- Removal of Content
- Deletion of any message, thread, reaction, or media.
- Temporary Mute
- In instances where a submissive or switch member's behavior is deemed disruptive or inappropriate, a moderator may temporarily mute the member's ability to send messages in the server.
- Temporary Timeout
- In instances where a dominant or switch member's behavior is deemed disruptive or inappropriate, but also requiring a more discreet approach, a moderator may temporarily restrict the member's access to interactive functions within the server, such as sending messages or responding to prompts. This is intended to address problematic behavior without publicly embarrassing or undermining the authority of the member.
- Limited Access
- A member's access to certain parts of the server or specific channels is restricted, typically as a consequence for repeated rule violations or serious breaches of the code of conduct.
- Temporary Ban
- Moderators may temporarily restrict a member's access to the Discord server if they are found to have violated the rules or code of conduct. This ban may last for a specified period of time, after which the member may be allowed to return.
- Permanent Ban
- In cases of severe or repeated violations, moderators may permanently ban a member from the Discord server, preventing them from returning in the future.
Rules
For a deeper understanding of the rules, consult pinned posts and channel descriptions, observe the community's behavior, or ask fellow server members for guidance, provided you have already made an effort to learn the following on your own.
- Do not troll or spam.
- Refrain from posting any trolling, spamming, or excessively triggering content in any form of communication. This includes messages, direct messages, emojis, reactions, commands, single letters/punctuation, copy-pasta, voice, or video. Be mindful of others and maintain a positive environment.
- No self-deprecation.
- Refrain from engaging in self-deprecating behavior or comments, such as putting yourself down, belittling accomplishments, or expressing a negative self-image. While it is normal to experience difficult moments or feelings, remember that these moments do not define your worth. Focus on self-improvement, positive communication, and sharing your struggles without undermining your value. Foster an empowering and supportive environment.
- Respect boundaries.
- Unwritten rules exist in this server: they're called boundaries, and everyone has them. If someone communicates their boundaries to you in good faith, respect them. Keep in mind, your boundaries determine how others interact with you, not how they interact with others. In a community of consenting adults, appreciate and respect the diverse preferences and boundaries of all members.
- Community expectations.
- Check pinned posts and channel descriptions for channel and community guidelines before posting. Be open to learning and adhering to community norms and expectations as you become aware of them through your interactions within the community. Accept explanations or corrections from other members with grace. Foster an environment of mutual respect by demonstrating respectful behavior.
- Maintain formality.
- All members should address each other respectfully. Use titles where preferred, but also recognize the fluidity in roles, especially for Switches. Whether you're addressing a Dominant, Switch, or Submissive, adapt your interactions based on their current expressed role and preference.
- Respectful direct messaging.
- All members must request permission to direct message another person using the
#dm-requestschannel. This ensures respect for personal boundaries and maintains a consensual communication environment.
- All members must request permission to direct message another person using the
- Do not ping.
- Do not ping anyone with the
@Do Not Pingrole, including in replies or quotes, while in the same channel or channels they are active in.
- Do not ping anyone with the
- Adult content delineation.
- Please keep safe for work ("SFW") and not safe for work ("NSFW") content where they belong. NSFW discussion is always permitted in channels that are flagged for NSFW as relevant.
- Use channels appropriately.
- Respect the purpose and function of each channel within the server. Do not misuse or abuse channels by posting irrelevant content or disregarding channel-specific rules. Ensure that your contributions align with the intended topic, promoting a positive and organized environment for all members.
- Adaptability and preference.
- All members should adapt to each individual's preference. Recognizing role fluidity, Switches may align with Dominant or Submissive dynamics as preferred. In situations of uncertainty or misinterpretation, prioritize respectful and clear communication. Consider first-time misunderstandings with guidance, not reprimand, fostering an environment of understanding and learning.
- Nonparticipation and kink-adjacency.
- Members opting out of the dynamic scene or practical power exchange roles (Dominant, Switch, or Submissive) will not engage in scene activities nor be obligated to do so.
- This is an adult only (21+) community.
- Verification must be provided through a valid piece of ID: one picture of the ID and one picture of you holding it with your face in view. The birth date must be visible. Any other information can (and should) be censored. These pictures must be provided in your authentication ticket. This must be completed within 24 hours of joining. Failure to do so will result in your removal.
- Code of conduct.
- All members are expected to follow the code of conduct.
Code of Conduct
We encourage members to speak freely and express their opinions openly – but tactfully. To that end, all members will strive to follow the code of conduct presented here:
- Privacy & Confidentiality
- Respect the privacy and confidentiality of server members.
- Sexual Harassment
- Sexual harassment will not be tolerated.
- Remain Civil
- No defamatory, offensive, or violent language or content.
- Think Equality
- Language or content that discriminates or perpetuates hate on the grounds of race, ethnicity, disability, religion, age, gender identity, sex, sexual orientation (or another characteristic) are not appropriate.
- Be Respectful
- Personal attacks are not acceptable. When challenging an opinion, challenge the point and not the person. However, respectability politics, sealioning, and tone policing will also not be tolerated and will be construed as aggressively egregious behavior.
- Maintain Confidence
- Do not break confidence with, or share private information from, another server member without their explicit permission unless you believe someone’s life is at risk.
Dynamic Scene Overview
Our community thrives within an inherent dynamic scene, creating a space for consensual, kinky inequality. This unique environment allows members to engage in a live power dynamic, offering the chance to lead or follow in a way that enhances the experience for everyone involved.
For both newcomers and existing members, the "dynamic" aspect of our dynamic scene underscores our dedication to flexibility and personal choice. Whether you're eager to dive into active participation or prefer to observe and gradually engage, the scene adapts to each individual's comfort level and pace. This flexibility ensures that everyone can find their own way to comfortably engage, making each person's experience uniquely tailored.
At the core of every interaction within the scene is clear and informed consent. Whether it's adhering to specific conversational guidelines or partaking in light-hearted tasks, all actions respect the boundaries and preferences of those involved. In our community, following the FRIES[2] model means consent is always Freely given, Reversible at any time, Informed with complete understanding, Enthusiastic, and Specific to each situation. This ensures a respectful and safe environment for everyone.
The dynamic scene in our community is more than just a setting; it's a vibrant and evolving environment. It serves as an inviting space for those intrigued by power dynamics to explore them safely, with respect and informed consent as fundamental values. By participating, you agree to engage in this playful exploration of power dynamics, where your comfort, consent, and safety are always our top priorities.
Server Leveling & Tier System
The server leveling and tier (T#) system serves as a way to recognize, reward, and engage our dedicated members. Its design, while promoting active engagement and community recognition, ultimately aims to create a time-gated access to certain channels. It's rooted in the principles of fairness, transparency, and community involvement.
Engagement and Leveling Policy
As part of our commitment to a dynamic and fair community, the T# system is crafted to honor your presence and participation. The T# system is a tribute to our collective journey and growth. Misunderstanding or misusing it not only impacts an individual but the community as a whole. Serious violations related to manipulation or misuse may lead to disciplinary action. Like every other feature on this server, its success lies in our collective respect and adherence to the rules and to the code of conduct.
Recognition of Activities
Members progress through T# based on a set of consistent criteria which include text activity and overall positive engagement within the server.
- Rejoining the server? Your past engagement matters! While T# may not be instantly restored, a quick review of your positive past contributions will determine the appropriate recognition.
- We value all forms of engagement! Even if bots don't record voice chat activity, other community members may. Your voice contributions won't go unnoticed and may reward T# in place of traditional activity.
Time-Gated Access and Privacy Considerations
While the T# system acts as a measure to time-gate access to specific channels, it is not a security or a privacy feature. It does, however, offer existing members a window to manage or remove their sensitive content if they feel wary about newer members having easy access to their data.
Moderator Discretion
Moderators reserve the right to pursue action without discretion, including the right to assign or adjust T# in special circumstances. However, whenever a discretionary decision is made regarding T#, a reasonable note will be logged in #logbook. This may not always disclose personal or situational specifics. However, it ensures everyone understands the basis of decisions. Special circumstances may include:
- Active in Voice Chat
- Returning Member
- Long-Term Partner of Established Member
- Trusted Community Figure
- etc.
Levels & Experience: A Mathematical Breakdown
Our server's leveling system is meticulously crafted for fairness and engagement. Here’s an insight into the math behind it and the significance of each score:
- Experience Points Calculation
- To level up, a specific amount of experience points (XP) is required, determined by:
100 × level² - 30 × level + 40
- This quadratic formula ensures early levels are easier to achieve, with higher levels gradually becoming more challenging.
- To level up, a specific amount of experience points (XP) is required, determined by:
- Length Score
- Measures the richness of your message based on word count and media presence. Longer, meaningful messages contribute to a higher score.
- Rate Score
- Evaluates your messaging frequency. A balanced, moderate rate of messaging achieves a higher score, encouraging active but non-spammy participation.
- Longevity Score
- Rewards your continuous presence in the server. The longer your membership, the higher this score.
- Consistency Score
- Reflects your regular engagement over time. Maintaining consistent interaction leads to a higher score.
- Total Experience from a Message
- The experience gained from each message is calculated as follows:
Length × Rate × ([Longevity + Consistency] ÷ 2) × 10
- This formula combines the individual scores into a total, representing the value of each message in terms of engagement and contribution.
- The experience gained from each message is calculated as follows:
Our system is designed to be transparent and fair, emphasizing quality engagement. Your active and meaningful participation is key to leveling up!
Tier Rewards
The T# system rewards your contribution to the server (T3, T6, T9), focusing on quality engagement over standard leveling. Here's how it operates:
- Experience-Based, Not Level-Locked
- Tiers are earned through experience points (XP) accumulated from positive server interactions, not just by reaching specific levels. This system allows for a more nuanced recognition of members' contributions beyond just their level number.
- Flexibility and Fairness
- Pausing and Resuming: We can pause tier progression for individuals, allowing for continued level advancement without tier advancement. This ensures that rewards align with ongoing positive contributions.
- Immediate Recognition: Members with a proven positive impact may be directly awarded higher tiers (e.g., starting at T6), acknowledging their trustworthiness and value to the community.
- Unique Contributions Matter
- Your journey through tiers is shaped by your unique interactions and contributions, not just by how often you post. We celebrate diverse and meaningful participation!
- Privacy and Access Control
- While tiers help manage access to specific channels, remember they are not privacy tools. We encourage thoughtful sharing and respect for all community members' privacy.
Embrace your role in shaping our community with your actions and interactions. Every positive contribution takes you a step closer to the next tier!
Server Currency System
The server currency system is intricately designed to enrich community interaction and reward active participation. It's calibrated to ensure fairness and motivate continuous engagement, with checks and balances to prevent stagnation and accumulation without contribution. At its heart, the system is about meaningful transactions that reflect the value we place on community involvement and member contributions.
Currency Dynamics and Distribution
The server currency system is still a work in progress and not fully implemented at this time.
Server Safeword
When the server safeword ?stop is used, it indicates an immediate end to any ongoing activities related to the dynamic scene. The use of the server safeword is always assumed to be sincere.
Safeword Policy and Response
The @Safeword Used role will be applied to the user for ten minutes and will be identifiable by a red 🛑 next to their username for the duration of the role, as shown here:
Janeway 🛑Captain Janeway 🛑
Additionally, a ticket will be automatically created and sent to the Moderation team to ensure the well-being of the user and other relevant server members.
The server safeword is a crucial tool for ensuring the safety and well-being of all members of the community and misusing the safeword can undermine its effectiveness, erode trust among community members, and create a dangerous situation for everyone involved.
It is important that all members understand the importance of using the safeword appropriately, and that it is always treated with the utmost seriousness and respect. Misusing the safeword will be considered as a serious violation of the server rules and will result in disciplinary action against the person who misused it.
If you believe that the server safeword has been used in bad faith and you want to voice your concerns, you may open a ticket in any text-available channel by using the /tickets open command with the following syntax:
/tickets open subject:Safeword Abuse
General Advice
Hey there! We understand that navigating our community with its various rules and expectations can be challenging. But don't worry, we're here to help with some general advice to make the transition smoother. Remember, effort is key to success in our space.
Fundamentals for a Smooth Experience
Let's dive a bit deeper. The key to thriving here is not just knowing the rules but also how you play the game. It's about the little things—being clear, being kind, and being open to growth. So, here’s the lowdown on how to make your mark and enjoy your time with us.
- Words Are Hard
- Expressing oneself clearly online can be a challenge. Miscommunication and misunderstandings can happen easily in the digital space. It's important to take extra care when trying to convey your intentions and ideas online to avoid confusion.
- It's Okay To Apologize
- If you have broken a rule or breached the code of conduct, it may be appropriate to apologize to those concerned.
- Think Before You Speak
- When commenting on a sensitive subject, please consider how your words may be interpreted.
- Favoritism Is Encouraged and Fun
- Building relationships and earning the favor of others within the community is not only permitted, but encouraged. It can be difficult to stand out and be recognized, but successfully navigating the expectations of both the community and individuals can lead to great rewards.
- Social Effort Reaps Social Results
- If you're not getting the attention you desire, consider respectfully and tactfully asking if there is anything you can do to change that. Remember, there is a balance between being engaging and enjoyable and being annoying.
- No One Is Immune to Criticism
- Everyone is subject to criticism. If you're acting bratty as a submissive or switch, you may receive punishment. If you made a poor decision as a dominant or switch, your peers may address it. But if you're being a generally bad person, you deserve to be held accountable.
- Seek Professional Counsel
- While advice and experiences shared within the community can be valuable, it is always important to seek professional legal or medical advice before making critical decisions.
Server Cheatsheet
We want to make sure that you have a smooth and enjoyable experience on our server, and part of that is understanding the different roles and role icons that you may encounter.
To help with that, we've created a reference guide to serve as a resource for you. This guide is designed to make it easy for you to understand the different responsibilities and privileges of each role, so you can make the most of your time here and feel confident in navigating our community.
| Username Colors | |||||
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Role Name | Description | Participant? | Dominant | Switch | Submissive |
@Dominant |
Magenta usernames identify a participant who is a dominant. | YES | Treat With Respect | Treat With Deference or Respect | Treat With Deference |
@Switch |
Purple usernames identify a participant who is a switch. | YES | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect |
@Submissive |
Blue usernames identify a participant who is a submissive. | YES | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect | Treat With Care |
@Safeword Used |
Green usernames identify nonparticipants and Kink-Adjacent people. | NO | Treat With Care | Treat With Care | Treat With Care |
@Nonparticipant |
Green usernames identify nonparticipants and Kink-Adjacent people. | NO | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect |
@Kink-Adjacent |
Green usernames identify nonparticipants and Kink-Adjacent people. | NO | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect | Treat With Respect |
@Muted |
Red usernames identify people who have been temporarily muted by a Moderator. | MAYBE | RIDICULE | RIDICULE | LAUGH |
| Role Icons | |
|---|---|
| Role Icon | Description |
| File:Pronouns.png | Pronouns are the default role icon alongside the username and help you identify the correct pronouns people should be addressed with. |
| File:Safeword.png | Signals an immediate end to any relevant ongoing activities related to the dynamic scene. |
| File:UsedSafeword.png | The Used Safeword role and role icon will be active for 10 minutes alongside the username. |
| File:Overwhelmed.png | A person has selected the Overwhelmed role, the role and role icon will be active for 24 hours alongside the username. |
| File:SoftMute.png | Signals a person wishes to reduce the amount of interaction they have with others, without having to explicitly communicate this to others. |
| File:Muted.png | A person with the Muted role icon alongside their username have been temporarily muted by a Moderator. |
| Useful Information | |
|---|---|
| Name | Description |
| Soft Mute | A soft mute is a corrective discipline that Dominants and Switches can assign to Switches and Submissives for minor infractions that do not warrant moderator intervention. |
| Lines | Handwritten lines ("lines") is a corrective discipline that Dominants and Switches can assign to Switches and Submissives for minor infractions that do not warrant moderator intervention. |
| Unique Discipline | Dominants and Switches in the community can assign unique discipline to Switches and Submissives for minor infractions that do not warrant moderator intervention. |
| Tasks | Tasks are unique assignments given by Dominants and Switches to other members in the community for fun or to fulfill a desire. |
| Server Economy | The server economy is a virtual system of currency, known as 1L, which can be awarded to members by Dominants and Switches for completing tasks or as a reward for good behavior. |
| Give Money | Give money to a Switch or Submissive by entering $give-money @username amount ($e.g., $give-money @Janeway 1) in chat.
|
| Leaderboard | View the server's economy leaderboard by entering $leaderboard in chat. |
| Other Important Roles | |
|---|---|
| Role Name | Description |
@Do Not Ping |
People with the Do Not Ping role should not be pinged in the same channel or channels they are active in, as it can cause clutter and disrupt their experience. |
@L3 |
The L3 role is earned by posting consistently within this community and is given out automatically by our leveling bot, Artemis. |
@L6 |
The L6 role is earned by posting consistently within this community and is given out automatically by our leveling bot, Artemis. |
@L9 |
The L9 role is earned by posting consistently within this community and is given out automatically by our leveling bot, Artemis. |
@Health |
Unlocks content warning (Health) channels with topics and content that focus on fitness, health, and wellness. |
@Labor |
Unlocks content warning (Emotional Labor) channels with potentially triggering topics and content. |
@NSFW+ |
Unlocks content warning (NSFW) channels containing inappropriate or adult content (e.g. pornography) that may be offensive. |
@Loyal |
A person with the Loyal role is a member of the community that has boosted the Discord server and has been commended for their contribution and support. |
@Authenticated |
A person with the Authenticated role is a member of the community that has provided verification of their age through a valid form of identification. |
@Unauthenticated |
A person with the Unauthenticated role has just joined the server and has not yet provided verification of their age through a valid form of identification. |
@Restricted |
A person with the Restricted role has been flagged for causing significant issues and is placed in the Quarantine channel for review and reconciliation. |
@Mod |
A person with the Mod role is a Moderator who has been given additional responsibilities and privileges to help maintain and manage the community. |
| Command | Description | Options |
|---|---|---|
| User Commands | ||
/info |
Allows viewing your own or another user's level and info |
|
/leaderboard |
Shows the top XP earners in the server. The leaderboard cleans itself on a 7-day cooldown to remove inactive members. |
|
| Moderator Commands | ||
/mod ban |
Bans a user - Will open a modal to provide additional messaging |
|
/mod role add |
Adds a role to a user |
|
/mod role remove |
Removes a role from a user |
|
/mod role update |
Swaps one role for another |
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References and Further Reading
Citations
- ↑ Iscah. "User:Iscah". femdom.community. Retrieved 2 July 2024.
{{cite web}}: CS1 maint: url-status (link) - ↑ Wikipedia contributors (23 May 2024). "Sexual consent". Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 2 July 2024.
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