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Getting Help in This Subreddit

Using The Search Bar

Do consider throwing a few keywords into the search bar before posting.

Searching by Flair

This subreddit uses Post Flairs to make our threads more searchable. If you click on, or touch, a post flair, you will find a list of all posts with that Flair. We get a lot of repeat questions, so the odds are good that you’ll find a lot of information quickly just by using the Post Flairs to search

Our Post Flairs are:

• Help! I’m new!is for beginner questions. The odds are very good that any beginner question you might have has already been asked and answered several times, So be sure to search this flair before you start.
• Need Advice / Got a Questionis for more general problem solving and solution sharing.
• Supportis for users experiencing difficulty and/or distress. We have some specific guidelinesfor support threads that are also linked in the Automod comment that appears on every thread. Please take a moment to familiarise yourself with them before commenting.
• Need Scene / Punishment Suggestionsfor canvassing the community for kinky ideas. Please remember Rule 6 when posting threads like this.
• Articles & Writingsfor either your own writing about kink or a blog post or news article about femdom that you’d like to share and discuss with the community.
• Guides & Resourcesif you have found (or made!) a cool guide or educational resource that you would like to share with the community.
• Technique / Skillsfor practical help on your dominant or submissive skillset.
• Praise! Happy thing happenedfor celebrating your femdom achievements and milestones.
• BDSM / Scene Datingfor help, advice and experience with finding a partner (no worries, we all find it hard, you’re not alone).
• Gear & Equipmentfor questions, recommendations and reviews of toys, trinkets, equipment and clothing.
• Culture / Societyto discuss femdom in a wider cultural context, track down your local scene, etc.
• Discord / subreddit promotionto find (or promote your own) online communities related to femdom.

Regular Threads

Regular threads are posted by and stickied by Automod on a weekly and monthly basis. What’s Up Weekly is our regular chat thread for your musings, rants, celebrations and other points of view that you’d like to share without posting a whole new thread and Sapphic Saturday is a weekend thread that celebrates all aspects of WLW and Queer Kink.

Getting Ideas and Advice For Your Femdom Adventures

Here on r/FemdomCommunity, we get a lot of posts in search of advice, ideas and suggestions for femdom scenes. We’re also lucky enough to have some fantastic, creative contributors who are willing to spend time and effort to help them out. However, they do need a basic framework to start generating practical, workable, fun ideas.

You would make it much easier for them to help you by providing the following information:

• Your hard limits
• Your soft limits
• Your kinky preferences
• Your partner’s hard limits
• Your partner’s soft limits
• Your partner’s kinky preferences

If you or your partner are just finding your feet in kink and are still exploring your kinky preferences, tell us what your vanilla preferences are so that we can help you come up with some kinked versions of them to try.

If you do not know what your vanilla (or kinky) interests are, we would like to recommend that you take the mojoupgrade quiz to help you figure that out.

If you do not include this information in your post, it will be removed and you will receive a notification requesting that you repost with the information included.

Giving Help in This Subreddit

The number of people in this community who are ready and willing to weigh in with help and support are what makes this community so special. However, there’s also a small fraction of users who tend to type out their advice with one hand - and when you’re totally to BDSM, it can be really hard to tell the difference.

Trusted Contributor Flairs

"Trusted Contributor" Flairs are awarded by the moderating team to users who consistently give helpful, practical advice and/or generate high quality content for the community. Anyone can nominate a user for a Trusted Contributor Flair. If you would like to nominate someone to receive this user flair (including the yourself), please contact the mods.

Helping Users Who have Had a Confusing or Difficult Experience

Please take a moment to read through these basic guidelines on discussing coercion, abuse and sexual assault and remember them when helping users in need of support.